How did I get here?

[Energizer Bunny]

WTBB - you're in the right place. So many of us can relate to EXACTLY what you are going through. It's hard to believe that anyone else could feel like you do, but that crippling physical pain that comes with all of this is something that I can relate to all too well.

I know you commented on my sitch, so you may have seen that my 30 yr old W decided that for the first time in her life to be an outgoing, barhopping, ultra "strong" person with no value for our previously storybook marriage.

It all feels like a nightmare that I need to wake up from.

Givingitmyall has given you some great advice. Much of it is co counterintuitive and takes more patience and strength than you have probably ever mustered up before. It can work though.

My W is still in my house, but doesn't wear her ring and is shopping for houses so she can move out. I continue to get a life and be positive as much as I can, but it's like there's a big head game at the Bunny Family house. I think there's a lot of MLC stuff in my sitch too.

The "I just feel so selfish, I see the changes you've made, but this just isn't for me, we're just putting off the inevitable with me staying here, blah, blah, blah,: is all just part of the script.

You're not alone.

You need to gage every reaction. You can't let her bait you into arguments. It only gives her reason to justify her actions. It's a lot easier to leave a guy who gets mad at her.

Take my word on this. It can get better, I've seen guys on here succeed. It will take a VERY long time though. I'm coming up on my 1 year ILYBNILWY anniversary.