Gosh Tal and Deb, You two are a couple of tough task masters aren't you...
Geesh....okay, here's my ACTION list:
1- TAKE A DEEP BREATH BEFORE letting what's in my mind come flowing out my mouth.
2- But TIME between my fear and my reactions to it.
3- WATCH....don't just listen LOOK for the positives don't twist them into negatives
4- WRITE DOWN THE POSITIVES...they're to easily and convienently, forgotten by me
5- KEEP DOING WHAT WORKED
6- Be loving even when HE'S drawing away
7- HOLD his hand instead of ALWAYS waiting for him to reach for mine.
8- Remember to acknowledge HIS "acts of service" (don't slip back into the taking him and what he does for granted mode)
9- STOP remind him of the A...stick to the NOW and ONLY refer to the past with regard to where WE went wrong. The As DIDN'T destroy our marriage, we did that together long before the As happened. THEY were a symptom NOT the cause.
