That's why we are here.....to put more heads together and see the stitch. You will get support here. The important thing is to keep posting....and often. I'm so glad that you can see through different eyes now.
He is not the man you M and that is a hard concept for you, but when you can stop seeing him as the H you knew and look at him differently....then that will help you deal better.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!