Hoping WAW will someday see through the fog....

[mishka422]

SSGA - You are getting some wonderful advice. You can't get better than getting advice and support from Coach and Greek's perspective will help you a lot. Trust me, I wish I had them around when my sitch was early.

As far as the bulldog L, definitely follow through with that. I was fortunate enough to have a friend who is a judge in my county and was able to point me toward the best L's in the area. I found one who was more than willing to get as down and dirty as I wanted her to, but was also willing to pull back fully when I asked her to.

I'm sure you're already aware, but in GA Adultery (if you can prove it) is grounds for D and can be used in custody and property division. Not all judges are sympathetic about it, but if you get the right judge you could luck out. It does not change anything with regards to CS though (that is a strictly based on a formula. you can figure out that amount using the state's calculator on the website).

Like you said, D in GA can be accomplished in 30 days. It almost never happens that way though, especially if there is property and children involved. In mine, we owned no property, had nothing to fight over at all, he didn't argue the custody agreement I wanted (I got sole custody, he has visitation and joint legal custody) and it still took 10 months. I was pushing it to the end in the last 2 months or it would have taken longer.

So, get the L in place, protect yourself and then let your W hang herself. She's unhappy? She is the one that has to make the changes, not you. Like Coach and Greek said - YOU DON'T LEAVE THE HOUSE. You are the stability for your boys right now. They need you to be that for them.

Take care! I'll look forward to hearing about your progress.