ok, first things first. You have a sense of humor. That's great. You will need it dealing with a MLCer.
Good for you for reading DR.
You have come to the right place. There are many wonderful people here. Try to post to others. People will get to know you and be more apt to check out your thread.
So, here we go.
The first thing you should realize is that dbing is for you. It's so that you can become the best SN you could be. It's where you will learn that happiness doesnt come from someone else. And its a journey that can be unbelieveably rewarding. And sometimes it even saves marriages.
You have stopped the begging and pleading. Good. The detaching takes a very long time. Of course, the sooner you get it, the better off you'll be. But, it comes when it comes.
Your w is on her own journey. Let her walk it. That's not to say you should be taken advantage of. But you cant shake her, shock her or beg her out of it. It has to unfold in her own time.
MLC is not for the faint of heart. You have to dig in and learn a lot of patience. Superhuman patience.
You are GAL, good. Remember any changes you make, anything you do, has to be real. It has to be for you. Otherwise, your w will see it for what it is - you trying to win her back. That will get you nowhere fast.
So, figure out what your part in the unraveling of your marriage was. And look to see how you can change. Then, really look at yourself. And figure out what other changes you need to make to become the person you were meant to be.
Hang in there. Remember, no matter what, you will be ok.
