But FIB's a big boy. He can handle himself just fine. I think FIB was asking us for our take on his anger, not on FaithfulH's motive. Nor do I see harm in what faithfulH said but if you misinterpret it, address that without attacking.
Please don't extremize faithfulH with an example that has nothing to do with what he was trying to say. I found that to be incendiary. j-
Yes he is. And I admitted that my example was extreme. And I'm not angry.
Luckily I have the benefit of talking to FIB on the phone because he called me to ask about this E-mail he received. He told me that he felt like he was being judged by FaithfulH and he felt badly. LIke he was a failure.
His post was asking for our take on FaitfulH's motive for telling him 'I believe your marriage STILL could be restored if you could move beyond it and thought better of her', in spite of the pure wickedness that she does to him. FIB is not angry at his STBX, he's HURT.
Someone who is truly 'supportive' doesn't say 'I believe your marriage STILL could be restored if you could move beyond it and thought better of her' to him. Given the emotions FIB is going through, saying things like that to him is just plain hurtful. And to flippantly state that they take no responsibility for the hurt their words caused is BS.
I stand by my comments. It's one thing to be 'pollyanna-ish' It's another to be arrogant about it.
And no, I'm not angry. I am posting very calmly and calling BS when I see it.
FIB and I have been friends for years - since the beginning of his DB'ing. We talk all the time. I have NEVER had a phone conversation where he is angry. Never. FaithfulH's message to him hurt him a lot, he felt like he was a failure and if only he changed, why his marriage would be restored.
