You don't break off contact. You be the absolute best you can be. Always be positive. Have your boundaries set. Make them reasonable boundaries. Simply ones of demanding to be shown respect. Nothing more.

I pray for my W and family each day. So for me, putting her out of my mind from here on out is not an option. But being able to live my life without having her around is a necessity. Being able to find ways to enjoy myself alone or with friends without my W being around is a must.

I spent most of yesterday alone. Today I didn't want to. So I hung out with a friend today after mass. I don't enjoy spending an entire week by myself. It will drive me crazy. An entire saturday is about as much as I can take.

Right now I am going through the bible. I started at the beginning with Genesis. I have the whole thing on CD. So that is what some of my time is used on when I am alone. I also feel like I am spending time with God when I am sitting there listening to it. I am going to try and complete the whole bible in the next 2 months. I put peice by peice on my mp3 player so I can listen to it in the car and at work. But it is no substitute over the long run for socialization and friendship at least for me.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...