I keep reading about setting boundaries and feel that I should maybe look at some of my own. Thing is, how do I do it??
I have asked for the keys for the house - H refuses on the grounds that this is still legally his home even though he chooses not to live in it (I could say that in the same vein, I demand to have my H on my keyring, as we are still legally married)!!
I have asked him not to flounce out if he gets upset when we talk but he says that he will not stay here and be abused (he takes any negative word about himself or ow as abuse).
I just don't think that I am in the position to set down any boundaries really - unless you guys know otherwise ... how can you put boundaries on a WAS who has nothing much to do with you??
You don't put boundaries on anyone, you put them around yourself. A boundary is not an attempt to control anyone else's behavior. A boundary is the action you will take to protect yourself.
If you can't win the battle of the keys, don't go there. You can't make him stay and talk with you. All you can do is decide what you are going to take care of Nell.
