FrankD, that was an extreme example, a tragic one, we all could use extreme examples to bolster our positions. To liken FH as giving advice that could be linked to that scumbag however, was that your intention?
Yes, it was an extreme example. Our community is reeling from this event. However, it is certainly a real example.
No,I did not intend to liken FH giving advice linked to the scumbag. Only to point out that there ARE mentally Ill people in the world and to not recognize the pure wickedness of FIB's STBX's behaviors is naive. Saying 'I believe this can be saved' is hurtful.
FrankD, I disagree. I think you are doing that thing you do, again. You mention it yourself on your thread and you should note it's now here in black and white.
What am I talking about? Your anger. Here you are, on another person's thread and you are over reacting big time to something that isn't yours. FaithfulH has about as little ego as anyone I know. Sure, he's an optimist. Thank God we have some around here. This is a cynical world that does not support marriage in general. When I tell people how long I've been M or that we reconciled, a lot of folks don't know how to be happy for me. It's like I let THEM down...or ruined their image of "moving on/punishing, etc".
But FIB's a big boy. He can handle himself just fine. I think FIB was asking us for our take on his anger, not on FaithfulH's motive. Nor do I see harm in what faithfulH said but if you misinterpret it, address that without attacking.
Please don't extremize faithfulH with an example that has nothing to do with what he was trying to say. I found that to be incendiary. j-
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