UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[bluerain]

Nell, if he doesnt want to give the key back, or respect your boundaries change the lock. Most importantly, dont ask him to do something that he wont, dont ask him to respect a boundary that you wont or cant enforce.

I was lucky, I asked my H to please let me know when he was going to be at the house and he complied, but to be honest, I didnt ask for the key back, but he moved across the continent. It was tough because I had the same thought that Rabbit just mentioned, but he chose to not live there anymore, so its not really his home anymore. I think that a big part of it is him trusting you enough to not deny him access if he needs it.