Gosh! Your H is such a control freak. And that dream ... he didn't have it ... he's just using the story to make you feel guilty.

I don't think you should leave any doors open for him if he wants to come back. He's going to have to ring and ring and ring at your door and earn his way back, I think. And why should he care about what job you have after he leaves? He really is very controlling.

Why should you be concerned about his move to another country --- all the ins and outs, learning a new language, etc? He is so clueless about how that would make you feel.

Good for you, buying the computer and going out. Awesome job. You took back control of your life.

Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed.
D35,S/D twins28,D22
EA4/04 End? Who knows?
"Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim