I am really freaked out about the similarities of our situations. I have been meaning to ask how yours played out and how you are doing today. You had incredible strength and I understand how you said you were emotionally spent. I replied to both you and Peace about the L situation and how that is going. H is getting freaked out, crying one minute, lashing out the next. I bought myself a computer so I can head to the coffee shops and hook to free WIFI and just that has been freeing. H is freaking out about moving to another country, learning a new language, etc. H indicated he would work on getting his visa when he is physically there as you can visit for 6 months. I still don't know how the border crossing will go for him with his stuff, but not my problem.
I will take your advice and work on volunterring or taking some classes. That will be a good start to meeting people.
How did you handle the goodbye when he finally left? Did you leave any doors open? Did H contact you when gone?
It broke my heart to hear how isolated you were, and how your H took advantage of that situation.
My H is bound and determined that I keep the job we share and has indicated when he goes he won't be taking all his stuff. He said I can throw or give to his sister. I feel that by him making sure I stay at the job and keeping his stuff he is trying to keep the home firest burning for a return. Does this make sense?
Gotta go, but cannot tell you how much I value your words and life experience.
Take care, Michele
M 42 H 41 M 16 yrs. Together 23 yrs. Bomb 5/16/09 D papers in motion Trying to keep sanity
