You are so right on H's behaviors. I hired L on Monday of this past week and on Tuesday I fired L. My L indicated on Monday she would contact H's L and she did and H's L contacted him. Unbelievably, H had not been in contact with his L in quite some time as he could not even recall my H at first. My L also must have done more than simply introduce herself she gave the background of our sitch...this freaked my H out and he quickly indicated things would be very rocky and unpleasant from then on as I choose to hire a shark L. I was freaked out that my L had got into financials etc. so early on, when I left that day I was very hesitant but gave L approval to just touch base with H's L to let him know she was representing me. I needed to step back because we both live and work together and to be honest I don't want to get ugly and drag this out. I want my fair share half and H agreed. Actually now that I look back it may be to my advantage as all the balls are now in H's court and I can lean back and wait for him to pursue D. I am not naive however and will have an L look over anything I receive and won't sign anything until I absolutely know what is happening.
All week I have been going out and when I shaved my legs yesterday, H was wondering if I was seeing someone. I did not play into his controlling nature and just laughed it off and went out for the afternoon. I bought myself a computer so I can use it whenever I want and am hiding it in a storage so this is something that is just for me.
H seems to be off balance because I did not get upset per usual this weekend and am jut acting casual and GAL'ing.
H said he dreamed last night that he was sleeping in our first apartment after we were married and I was holding a gun to his head. Hmmm, would love to know what that means.
Well never know what to expect anymore except that H is adamant about leaving so I am just trying to focus on myself.
Do you leave any room for coming back when they finally leave or do you treat this as the end?
Thanks again for listening, Michele
M 42 H 41 M 16 yrs. Together 23 yrs. Bomb 5/16/09 D papers in motion
