Sounds like you know what things to do that will start helping you keep busy. I also do not attempt to check my H's phone or computer and I unfriended him on Facebook to take away my temptation to look at his updates. H is still living here for the moment so I do have to txt with him and interact often about the kids, dinner, etc. It was confusing how to act at first but am getting the hang of being light, not asking personal questions, putting on a happy face but removing myself from the room or house if I'm feeling down. For txt I use it only if absolutely necessary and keep it to the point, brief,& appreciative if he offers or agrees to do something.
Pretend that this man is someone you've only gone out on one or two dates with...would you need to know his every movement or actions? Would you try to be light, subtly flirty, look your best, and positive around him? I know it is very unfair but basically our marriages are back to square one...through mistakes we made and mistakes he made....you can't change him but you can take a look at yourself and start being the person you want to be.
And I agree....it's time for this to be about YOU!
