What in the world am I supposed to do? I spend tons of time away. I told her I accept that she is moving out. I have lots of good times without her. The problem seems to be that I am there EVERY time she wants me to be. Is that a good thing, or a bad thing? Is she walking on me, or am I being a good husband to a wife who is going through a tough time in life?
I hear you - I really want to hold onto the good times too and create more of them. But you and I have that in common - we're always here when they want us. Not on our schedules.
I think you (and me) need to give more the feeling of we won't always be here. It's one of the basic counter-intuitive techniques of DB that I personally have avoided. It's the GAL - have a plan one night when they are supposed to be here. 180 - when they expect us to be here, dinner, weekend, whenever that is - DON'T. Be out doing something for us. I think you will really prosper from this technique. Why not try it?
