He is speaking from the same script as they all do, line by line. No matter how unhappy he was, or what terrible things you did to him, or whatever it is, he doesnt get an excuse, an A is never justified. My H actually told me that he didnt think that I would mind!
I had the same feelings when I really realized that he had been unhappy for a long time. But I think that all you can do here is validate what hes saying, but still stay detached enough to not let him cake eat. And dont beat yourself up over it. As your H, it was his responsibility to come to you and tell you what was going on with him. You couldnt make that choice for him any more than you can make this one for him.
Im sorry that your having a hard time right now, it will get better, I promise.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
