If your H has found this Oz, it will purely show him how keen you are to put your M back together. He's had more than enough opportunity to let go and leave and he has not taken it ... all this is showing him is that you are getting some support for your feelings and how much you really are struggling with his poor behaviour.
I know that people are very keen to maintain their annonymity on this site and I think that should be the case in many sitch's however, your H has seen the changes in you and responded positively. I'm sure that, even if you stopped coming here, you would continue to do marvellously well. (We want you to stay, of course but would be OVER THE MOON if you didn't need to because things had worked out).
It's a shame we can't PM because we could find another way of supporting one another.
I have often wondered if my H has been here too as he seems to be a much better DB'er than I am (he uses it to reverse the psychology on, I'm sure)!! I guess that we all run the risk of being 'found out' ... this is a public forum, afterall. They can find their way to Db as easily as we did ... even though it was a while for me.
If you are that concerned, change your name and signature - I know that we will find you ... you can come to us anyhow and then we would defo know that it was you.
Are you a bit calmer today? I hope that I have not been too controversial here.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
