Well he'll file for D if I don't. The set up is - do it legal sep his way, and he'll be fair in the terms.
Fight him , and he'll take me to court and we'll spend thousands on lawyers fighting out the terms.
At this point I don't have the money, but I'm starting to think I need to fight in court rather than give him what he wants.
I'm just feeling bitter tonight because in every way, I feel he gets what he wants and I get nothing. If I give him the legal sep., I get five months of MC and a guarantee H won't file for D for one year. It buys me time.
I agree it feels like a set up. I just don't know what to do. It seems in every arena - from scheduling, to any conversation really - it's his way or the high way. I have been going along with it in my effort to DB, not fight, show I am validating, not pursuing, etc. But it's starting to hurt. Today was a symbol of that. I didn't want to jump when he called me to pick up S. I'm tired of feeling powerless. But he's fighting me no matter what. I either fight back, and get blamed for fighting, or I duck his punches best I can and wind up feeling beat up.
