Everything you are advised to do right now is going to feel "wrong" or counter intuitive. Do it anyways.
You're confused because he is.
Ready How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It and also Michelle's How to Get Through to Your Man. Very insightful into how they think and what we can do to get through to them without all out wars.
You can do this and it's still very hopeful. Him saying yes to the movies was huge. Don't ask him anymore for now to do anything and when you do again, keep it light and easy. That will help him invite you out too. No R talks and def. no D talks.