Glad you came to the board. I won't spend a lot of time with an introduction and get right into your stitch. BTW, the more you can tell us, the better we may be able to help. Keep posting and don't stop even if you get discouraged.
Have you read Divorce Remedy? That is a must. All those books on how to "improve" your M doesn't work when you are S and he's threatening D. DR is what you need to read to know how to bust a divorce.
Patient & GAL is not enough. What about detaching? You know what GAL is, but do you know about lovingly detaching? Most people tend to want what they think they can't have and that applies especially now with your H. Why are you doing all this pursuing after him? And why are you apologizing over and over? Don't you think once is enough.....especially if you've been rejected?
I am not much for MC unless the C is pro M. If not, then the C will have you D before you know what hit! I would also advise you not to get the entire family involved in a C session until you and your H have begun to work together. Don't use the kids to try to get him back.
Read as many post on the board as you can b/c that will help you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
