Asked me if i wanted to go with her for something to do.
Jeez, as much as I want to be with her, that was an easy "no"
Good job! Yep, I don't think you should help her do anything that is hurting your marriage, buying a separate bed, looking for apt., moving out of your house to make it easier for her, or anything like that. I think the more consequences (b/c of her poor choices) the better.
I agree with all of gima's points. Good on the positive PMA. Keep working on that, GALing, working on self-confidence & detaching. I was where you were a year ago, and now I feel like if my X is too stupid to see how great I am, I don't want him anyway. I don't think he's good enough for me anymore, and I used to feel the opposite.
Yeah, you know how I feel about the touching and rubbing. When she's ready to work on the marriage, then you can do that to your heart's content. Now, not a good idea, since it's pursuing.
