I totally get what you are saying. You are right. Perfect for sitch today.
H says he'll be back with S between 1:30-2. When he calls at 1 and says he'll be home in 35 min. I call back to ask if I can come back at 2 because I wanted to wrap things up with my friend I was visiting.
H goes off.
When I get home I appologize and say it was a communication error about our meeting agreement. I have also been asking him for days if/when he will come back htis afternoon so I can go exercise. He has been avoiding answering. I'm guessing OW.
I ask again if/when he intends to come home this afternoon. H blasts me again and storms off. I asked him if this was about keeping agreements, and if so I would like an agreement about today too. I also said if this is about him needing to be somewhere tonight by a certain time, just tell me so, and the fact that he won't answer makes me think he's hiding something.
He storms out and says he hates it when I follow him outside and don't drop the subject. I should have dropped it, but I kept insisting, then please tell me your schedule.
I'm not telling him when to be here, I am asking for the same respect. He just gets more p.o.ed and drives off like a maniac mumbling something about maybe going to the East Bay (OW i figure).
It just doesn't seem fair and I decided not to be a doormat, jumping everytime he demands I be home, but not giving me the same respect. This may have backfired. Now he is more p.o.ed and blaming me than ever.
If this was a co-worker, I would have done the same thing - if we are going to have time agreements and stick to them, it needs to go both ways. I think that is fair.
Advice?
I'm also still agreeing to hold up my end - be where and when I said I would. But hoping for them to hold up their end too.
