Quote: I just got rejected by my husband tonight and I got upset. Actually he made a date with me for sex tonight and then forgot and made other plans. However, instead of coming to me and saying that he is sorry for hurting me, he is now acting as if he could care less.
Oh Honey . . . obviously I'm not blackrock or Odga, but I sure do feel your pain. Something similiar happened to me last week. In our session with C, my H was asked why he didn't let me know ahead of time and H said he just forgot. I think that because H had to admit this in front of the C and was made aware of how it affected me helped. H was told it's OK to say No, but must then give a reason for the No.
Would it help to simply state to your H "When you do XXX, I feel XXX." ??
Quote: Can you help me understand why he'd act like it doesn't matter to him (the forgotten sex date, that is)?
It might be that he's embarrassed and upset with himself--he doesn't know how to admit to you that he's sorry he screwed up.
Why not just let this one pass ("Hey, sweetie, these things happen. Let's make a rain check.") and offer the opportunity for another date? See what he says and let us know.
