I'm new wondering if this works...

[BigJohn]

Yes, BJ, he is all rational and reason. And I mostly feelings. And tonight, I just feel done. I'm tired and want to give up.

Help me understand this re: your sitch, perhaps I'll get inspiration. Thanks buddy.

Hope,

In my sitch, I want so much to be able to communicate with and understand my W on an intimate level, but because of our differences, it's very frustrating. And I want my W to understand my thinking and my feelings.

My W is very limited in her ability to think beyond her feelings and engage in some critical thinking. And, although I've come a long way in terms of understanding her feelings based thinking, there is a limit to my abilities in this regard.

When I look at my sitch, I feel as though it is my W who has a better chance of ultimately understanding me better than I can understand her. Unfortunately, it is my W, not me, who is in the midst of a personal crisis. When I look at your sitch, the reverse seems to be true: the better equipped spouse is NOT the one having the personal crisis.

My point here is that I think you have a lot more going for you than you might think.

I can certainly relate to your feelings of being exhausted and "done". I am certainly "done" in my sitch with the disrespect and emotional abuse inflicted on me by my W. But does that mean that I'm "done" with my M and/or my family- even in the midst of filing for D? I can't say that I am. That is why I'm dropping the rope completely with regards to my W. I need a vacation from her and her crap! Whether or not my vacation from her will be permanent or not is her choice!