I think the hardest part is that I am over trying to make him see or impact his perception so I am very casual. But, it may be counterproductive if I do want him to come back...I just don't know anymore. It is easier to be nice when I have given up. But, I always have a tiny shred of hope.
So whether you want him to come back or not..or you just don't know...why not have the choice? If that's the case then...
It just seems to me (all usual disclaimers apply here) that you are doing a decent job of distancing, with an occasional reach out to keep him attentive but not actually exposing him to (or maybe even sheltering him from) some of the harder reality that's going to wake him up. Again, I may be missing the whole thing but that's just what it looks like from up here in the bleachers...that's Red Sox baseball humor. I really have to change that user name ;-)
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
