It's good that your H can do something thoughtful for you. Unfortunately most guys seem to be overly dense about such gestures; we tend to underestimate the necessity of showing through our words and deeds what our positive thoughts and feelings really are. And it's always too easy to let the negative ones drown out the positive, though that might by no means be our intent -- it just comes out that way.
I think it often takes the patience of Job to be able to withstand the myopic callousness of a mate. I can say that I have been on both ends of that equation, and neither is pretty. I know what it feels like to have be injured by a loved one, and I am ashamed of my own transgressions. I hope I have been learning greater patience from this.
