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[billclay18]

This is moot. She wants a divorce. How you feel about divorce (which is exactly how I feel/felt about it) is beside the point now because we live in a country in which one is free to divorce if he/she chooses.

Is the point that you want us to understand how hard it is? I've told you, I truly contemplated killing myself. I was absolutely devastated, depressed, arguing my case with those around me as to why it was horrible and not acceptable.

But here I am. Here we are.

This conversation should be IMO about the reality of what is happening, how you can best handle it and be okay. You will need to really breathe and work on your perception of what is happening.

It is hard, believe me I speak from experience, but it's alot harder if you fight it...internally I'm speaking of. If this is truly what she wants, it's going to happen. This is the answer for her right now, doesn't mean that can't change. It won't happen overnight, you've got time. Live your life, let her live hers, enjoy your kids and see how it unfolds.

I can also tell you from experience that as much as getting divorced sucks, you will get past it, move on and be happy...if YOU choose to. You can choose to fight her on it (which will not help your chances or change anything) and you can choose to continue to fight yourself on it (which again is futile). Accept it for what it is right now.