True, he's on stage at the moment, but eventually the mask will fall away and the stage lights will dim and the curtain will fall. He's been on the stage all of his life and one day, it's all going to end. I suspect the end is closer than we all think, but time will tell.
Your daughter is going to learn the hard way where it comes to her father. If they have "joint" accounts and her money is sitting in that account, I can him taking the money and lying his way out of it by saying she can have the truck. Your xh reminds me of my xfil. He was the exact same way and we called that "conning someone". He sucked the very air and blood from people and when there was nothing left, he left them in the dust.
The only relationship he had w/his two sons was when he needed money or something from them. Right now, that's the path my xh is on, i.e. living out his life and attempting to do the exact same things that his father did w/his own mother. Unfortunately, I'm nothing like his mother, so is play acting isn't working, i.e., that why when he asks for something and I say no, I don't hear from him again until something else crops up.
The reason I have mentioned this because your children will grow up and the lessons that they have learned will help them see him for what he is. Hopefully, in time, they will learn skills to help them deal w/him on some level.
I do hope that you are okay. I know this gets to you and why wouldn't it? Have faith, for his stage performance may be coming to an end very soon as there is a new director in town who is willing to challenge him, his lawyer and the judicial system.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
