I'm new wondering if this works...

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I'm considering throwing in the towel, folks. This is so painful. H gets to come and go as he pleases, yell as he pleases, and I get to sit and validate and not be heard. Maybe I should just fight for a D and get the best I can and move on.

Needing some inspiration here people, I don't really want to give up, it just feels so hopeless tonight. Needing a little coaching.

Hope, there are a whole bunch of reasons why what you're doing now will pay huge dividends long-term and near-term. I can remember times being so stressed out with one of my toddlers having fits and tantrums. More and more stress builds as I try to control and console. I'm truly worried and I think I must do something. It keeps getting worse and my stress feeds hers.

I can remember the first time I finally just let the toddler go, have her fit right on the floor in front of me. I refused to participate. Once I was comfortable that she would be fine and that I wasn't a bad parent I found myself with some serious peace of mind. Eventually the toddlers find that their behavior doesn't work. They find themselves exposed or not the center of attention and they eventually get that their behavior is not making sense and they change it.

The challenge is you can't control their thoughts or make them see things. You can only set the stage and control the boundaries to insure safety. But what you get out of it is much bigger and independent from when or where they learn their lessons. You get real peace of mind.