Anyway, put on a really good mood tonight for dinner. Had her laughing, the boys commented on it too. Don't know if it was being to accessable, but it was genuine, and it's been awhile that I've been in a good mood.
This is good. Very good. Make her laugh. Keep the mood light and happy. It sends a message to her that you are not a threat and that she can have fun around you without you having any expectations (so long as you don't pursue).
See, you want to show her, by being positive without pursuing, that it's ok for her to come out of her bunker. That it's ok for her just to be relaxed and have fun around you b/c you are doing it without having any expectations. The more this occurs, the more she may come back. Just really keep yourself from pursuing - I know the urge is overpowering sometimes.
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We took the boys to our Cub Scout pack meeting tonight. W did keep touching me to get my attention and make comments. Afterwards, regarding my interaction with the other parents, W said I have a confidence that is "very attractive."
See. Felt good to hear that, didn't it.
But, don't do this,
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I did sit down next to her too often at home tonight. Put my hand on her leg at one point.
or you just might frighten that scared little animal back into her hole.
You create the right environment. And let her come to you on her timetable. Maybe she comes back, maybe not. You're cool no matter what.
