I wouldn't call it civil. We have very differing opinions on one major topic. I have just learned too keep my cool and not let whatever she is or isn't doing bother me. You will get there and the sooner it will be better for you and possibly your marriage. If you get the papers just deal with them. Don't let fear guide you.
"Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" Matthew 6:33
