So RSF- How was IC? What do you think of the substantive issues addressed here on your thread? We can't be "suckers" indefinitely.
LOL...IC went really well. I have the most awesome guy. He sees right through my personal analytic s, excuses, rationalization, etc. and calls me on it. There seems to be two things going on at lleast that was the conclusion after today...its really not the DBing techniques. IC and I discussed today and zeroed in on the combination of ego/jealousy/control and the fact that my PA was ended not because we didn't care about each other but because it was wrong. Perhaps a subconscious feeling about going back to that relationship if W and I are really really finished forever is making it hard for me to make a long-term commitment to the uncertain situation in front of me. I'm not sure if that makes sense because I'm not sure I understand it fully myself. Make any sense?
Sort of. I just don't understand your fixation with making a long term commitment to an uncertain situation. That doesn't really make sense (at least semantically). Read what we are saying in so many different ways here. Even the "About Last NIght" movie reference...it isn't over often even when you commit to it being over. That is part of your very natural and understandable urge to control. But, why not deal with what you have in front of you? You're not about to go marry the OW are you? Go slow, deal with one thing at a time. Is any of this resonating with you? What stands out to you? What can you do about it?
