Why call it cheating in a way that makes it sound equivalent to infidelity?
I wholeheartedly concur that using porn as a replacement for a decent sex life is unacceptable, and lying about it is a betrayal in the sense that any lie is a betrayal. But adultery it is not.
It is much more useful to say, for instance: "it is unacceptable to me for you to use porn as a substitute for a healthy sex life with me," than "you dirty porn using Ahole, you are cheating on me."
The first gets to the real problem. The second makes PORN the problem, rather than the disconnected sex life. And, then the second makes porn the BIG HUGE DEAL that has to remain a DEVASTATING ISSUE blah blah blah. This is unfortunate, as few men, even the best, decent, loving, caring, compassionate, faithful men will permanently stop using porn. So, making porn the BIG HUGE ISSUE, rather than the sexual disconnect, kind of sabotages things.
In any case, it sounds like Liz's sex life is hoppin', so I don't think the sexual disconnect is the problem here, unless it is coming from Liz's side. (Imagine, for instance, that she is faking Os and not sharing her authentic sexuality with H which is in fact why she is freaking out about the porn because SHE would like to be able to use it too, lol...)
