she has no obligation to me, just to see the kids. just wait to hear from her when ever that is?she has all the space she needs,so what am i misunderstanding?
To me it means removing yourself from her drama, her venom, her choices you don't agree with. Taking the higher road. Rewarding good behavoiur ignoring bad behaviour.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
sunday and today was first time in wks that i made first contact.
I have not called her since July 15th. I wait for her to call me.
I haven't said love you since the first wk of august.
I haven't said i hope we make it thru this since 8/22, which is the last time she said i hope so too,but i wasn't helping my cause. I haven't "popped by" since then.
My begging and pleading period was July 13-July 22nd. I mean I couldn't believe it,broke my heart. Then she asked me to stay the night 7/28 and we went on a vacation I thought we had a great time until 8/1. 8/3 is when it went from she's broken things she'd like to do in the future as a couple, things she wants me to do for her around the house and a trip to hawaii, to I did it to her. I chose not to sleep in the same room, she would turn the covers down, she'd go somewhere, I'd do something else, I think there was one day i followed, but she was getting stuff ready for a garage sale, i was trying to help.
So 8/3,there were like 3 days that wk, i apogized took responsibility for every bad thing she said i did, didn't even defend myself or give my opinion, thanked her for telling me thats how she felt, she said i was a great guy, said we have a great marriage,her friends wanted it to work out,we had more good than bad the kids. It will be alright,she even told the kids that.
8/18 decided it was in the best interest for her me to give her space again, she would only glare at me or look away and that would only be briefly.
The only time I hear her voice is when she has called me or the conferences.
I texted the counselor because this is the second time he has broken my trust and he is manipulating the situation.
that and he said i should file for divorce first, he said that saturday when i met with him. I told him to pound sand, I'd get help somewhere else, just help me protect the kids.
i also asked him if was going to share info, i wasn't going to give him any and he said he wouldn't.
he also set an appt for my wife and i, that i didn't want to go to, i knew she wasn't ready, then in front of my wife and i he said i set it, it was all i could do not to beat the heck out of him,then wife comes unglued,she leaves and i waited outside in parking lot to cool off and he walks up and said part of her wants to divorce me and i said u didn't help my cause.
