As an FYI, two helpful people replied to my original post (above) and here is my response back to them - answering the questions they asked me. I will copy it below:
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010