A&K! I'm a jerk....I meant to write another male DBer's name but instead wrote yours. I think I saw your name in color and it distracted me. I know you're my fellow lady here....not that I don't think you have self respect but I did have Coach in mind right there....sorry about that!
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I've followed your story a bit as I know you have mine. You've gotten some great advice from DB'ers much wiser than me. It can be conflicting at times, but you've had the best adviser of all...your W!
You cheated, left your W for OW. You broke your W's heart, but she picked herself up, dusted herself off, let you go and got on with her life...but she didn't D you...meaning she left the door open. Things with OW fizzled out and you wanted W back AFTER you saw she had let you go.
Do you see what worked for HER???? Do what she did and you may have a chance. Do what you're doing and you have little chance. I know it sucks, but I'm sure it sucked for her when the shoe was on the other foot.
Go rent "About Last Night". In addition to being pee-in-your-pants funny...there is a very valuable lesson to be learned from it.
Me45 (D11 from 1st marriage) W43 (D20 & D16 from 1st marriage) M4 Bomb 6/16/09 W wants D W moved out 8/29/09 I sent her D paperwork 9/25/09...I'm done
I've followed your story a bit as I know you have mine. You've gotten some great advice from DB'ers much wiser than me. It can be conflicting at times, but you've had the best adviser of all...your W!
You cheated, left your W for OW. You broke your W's heart, but she picked herself up, dusted herself off, let you go and got on with her life...but she didn't D you...meaning she left the door open. Things with OW fizzled out and you wanted W back AFTER you saw she had let you go.
Do you see what worked for HER???? Do what she did and you may have a chance. Do what you're doing and you have little chance. I know it sucks, but I'm sure it sucked for her when the shoe was on the other foot.
Go rent "About Last Night". In addition to being pee-in-your-pants funny...there is a very valuable lesson to be learned from it.
Thanks Bill. One minor correction. I ended the relationship with the other woman because I realized it was wrong. It was wrong to begin a relationship before another had ended. It was wrong to have a relationship when I was married.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
