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I am eagerly awaiting to hear of the first successful cell phone implant.

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Have a wonderful weekend!!!


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LOL! I've noticed it over the last week or so. He's still got it and pay attention to it, but not nearly like he once did. Now he actually walks away from it, unguarded for long lapses of time.


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So H is up quite a bit of money. He sent me an email....

"LOVIE!!!

seriously, i stopped in the XXXCasino to get S, my little rockstar, a t-shirt... I turned my last 50$ into 1000$ then had lunch... took 400$ and turned it into 1500$ !!! I'm up 1100$ and got comped a room (I started drinking the goose while playing at the $50 blackjack tables)

if you wanna come out here, c'mon!!!
my phone died (battery is charging now...)
i've got some fantasy football work to do while I relax, then i'm gonna go play more and try to kick this b!tch open!!!

i'll text you later ;-)

thanks lady..."

So, he won't be home today....but he's happy. He just called me. He said it again "Thanks for being so cool about this." I told him "You just have to tell me. No mad, no complaining...I'd rather you be honest and have a good time and not worry about my feelings being hurt. If you're honest and have fun, they really won't be." He said "I know that now." I think he does realize, the old Stronger from just one year ago would NOT have been cool about this. I haven't even told him or advised when to quit. Just let him play and have as much fun on this "odyssey" as he possibly could.

So, hopefully we can continue the progress.

Thanks guys...couldn't do it without all of you.


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Stronger,

I am so proud of you. This is awesome and amazing news. He communicated his gratitude to you - this is huge. He really feels loved and so do you. a DB SUCCESS STORY! Yeah~

TOTALLY GET THE PHONE THING. My H distances from me by constantly being glued to that phone - constantly looking, holding, texting....I agree with your intuition. If my H put that thing down I'd know we had come a long way toward intimacy and openness again. Go girl!

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Hey S, now you're really getting it. Let him go a bit to figure this out.

I just want to say, dont forget to keep your expectations low. It might be tough and go for awhile.

But, great stuff happening for you and I am so glad.

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Sounds like good stuff!!

Hey B! Someone else up at this time on Sat. It's 6:30 here...


"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out."
Robert Collier

"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments."
Henry Ward Beecher

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I meant touch and go. Although tough and go might work, too.

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Yeah, I caught that! And both really do work.

So all the texts and phone calls while he's been off on his odyssey....he sounds like him from way back in the day, before the baby when we were crazy about each other. Lots of terms of endearments, lightness in his voice, repeated thank yous, excited sounding when he answers....who would have thought sending him off on a trip by himself would pay such dividends.
He won money....but I'm thinking what I won has no monetary value.

He'll be back later today. I plan to say lots about nothing, just blah blah blah.

Sitting still guys. With low expectations.


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Sitting still with low expectations is the best advice. It's working. And you're right - you are the winner.


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This is nice to hear!


Me - 30, H - 32
T - 10, M - 6, D - 1
DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2
on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10)
Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011
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