Young couple in need of help

[texasbobby]

well my wife is too. the first few months she thought she could have it all.

she will probably start calling more a being nice trying to get money from you. this is hard cause you dont want her to think negativly about you, but she has to see life is hard single income wise.

i found that my wife started to take advantage of it. i dont know what line to draw there either.

hand in there

[sumguy27]

Yeah the first couple of months I did give her a lot of money. Because I took all the blame. But now people are advising me that she has to learn to struggle and see her responsiblity. To not give her any money. If my daughter needs anything buy it for her. I know with you its a lot harder because your in different states. Wished our wives would just snapp out of it.

[texasbobby]

me too brother

just be prepared for her to go dark or retaliate is some way. my wife started to angry when i refused to pay her bills . had i continued why would she need to come home?

so i say yes dont support her financally, the dust will just have to settle again.

[sumguy27]

Made it all yesterday with no contact with the wife. Man it was tough. Tonight I wanted to go support my buddy who DJ's. The only thing that is holding me back on going is that he and his girlfriend is the one renting the place to her. So I don't know if I want to go knowing she might show up. If I see her with OM I would probably start with a flying round house kick to OM.

[texasbobby]

yeah man i would probably do the same thing.

[Stronger]

Well you have to make a choice: are you going to let her dictate your life? You should do what you normally would. BUT if you aren't going to be able to control yourself, don't go.

Frankly, I would do what I would normally. And if that makes her stop hanging out with OM publicly, all the better.

[sumguy27]

Since I have been sober for 12 days now and don't drink I probably would be able to control myself. But who knows also because my friends who support me said " your w has always been childish & nothing has changed, shes just more wreckless now than before." So if they come with me they probably will be the one to initiate the fight if there drunk. What a mess I just want to have some fun tonight for a change. Maybe I'm assuming too much.

[texasbobby]

i dont know bud sounds like your doing the right thing. i know i wouldnt be able to handle it. i would go to jail and piss her off more.

[Stronger]

You should be able to go there and have fun. If for some reason you can't, be the mature one and don't go, even if it's her friends who would be causing the problem. You just don't need the drama. You don't need to end up in jail either.

[texasbobby]

i agree with stronger ,if you do go out be responsible. i was going out and it helped for awhile but then i lost focus on my responsibilities. dwi's aint cheap and i think it hurts even more in the morning. its easy to fall into a bad cycle.