Article: Is physical or emotional cheating worse?

[saffie]

Hmmmmm....I don't know. I think that a guy often thinks he is emotionally involved with an OP once he has consumated the R. I think the things are closely intertwined, whereas with a woman, often the EA has happened first; which is perhaps why it is harder to make a woman change her mind once she has committed to an A.

My H thought he was 'in love' with the OW until we sorted things out. A year after reconciliation he told me that he had been 'in lust' with her, not love, and for the life of him he couldn't now see why. It was a huge learning curve for him.

Whichever type of A it is, the fallout is just so blinking painful, and one pays the price for a long time; especially if there are children. Also the ripple effects are felt in the interaction of the extended family. Although my H and I are a solid item again some of my extended familial R's have never recovered and I have no urge to rebuild them