OK, but why would you ignore it and what would you expect to happen next? What would you expect the outcome to be?
I would ignore it because I have found in my life and observing thousands upon thousands of these things, that ignoring it is what works the best. I am all for what works and totally against what doesn't......
What would I expect the outcome to be?
My attitude is.....
"They ALL come back"
"Women are a dime a dozen.. I always have a dime in my pocket"...
"HMMM,,,, Maybe this IS for the best... Now I can watch sports, have my hobbies, be clean or be a slob, go out when I want, stay home when I want, see who I want, not see who I don't want, play golf when I want.. ETC ETC ETC...."
YOUR attitude is... "she is the only thing I want and the only thing I can think about"
No wonder you are depressed thinking like that... Who wouldn't be?
Go get a life and have some FUN... Go out and mingle... Find some fun hobbies. Quit moping.....
What more can I tell you? This isn't rocket science. Do what works.
Let her go. If she wants the divorce.. SO BE IT.. Shrug your shoulders (so to speak) and admit that you may have blown it, let her go and move on down the highway...
FIND SOMEONE ELSE.....
I find it fascinating that you don't see what happened when SHE let go.
YOU CAME BACK...
You aren't going to know UNTIL you let go..
Letting go IS a choice...
Funny thing is that once you let go, you really WON'T care and it is likely that she may come back then...
Check out AFWAW's thread... Pearl Harbor's thread... Joshua Robert's thread... Steve McQueen's thread....
Then go check out the threads of people who can't let go.... Notice and observe that the ones who DO NOT let go are the ones that are NOT having success...
The pattern is CLEAR. Follow reality.. Follow what works...
What works is to STOP trying and to shrug your shoulder and walk the other way...
Go watch the movie with Rob Lowe and Demi Moore... "About Last Night"
They fall in love.. move in together. He suddenly misses the single life and wants some space... She GIVES him the space and moves on with her life (secretly crying her eyes out)
He wakes up and wants her back. Tries desperately. She tells him again and again it is over. He keeps trying. She keeps rejecting him telling him it is too late...
He FINALLY realizes that she doesn't want him. He moves on and starts a business he had already been interested in... Leaves her alone...
Meanwhile, she is missing him still. Her BFF finally tells your to quit whining and crying about him and make an effort....
The last scene is when she COMES to him... when he was playing softball. She goes by on her bicycle..... She stops.. Walks over..
They talk...
The end of the movie they have set up a date to meet again..
As they both walk away from each other....you can feel that they ARE going to get back together...
It WAS the time apart. The time of leaving each other ALONE to their thoughts is what brought them back together...
Let her go RSF.. She told you she wants to proceed with the divorce. By fighting against it you are showing more of the same selfishness that got you here..
"don't get a divorce, give me what I want. Not what you want. I don't want a divorce, I don't want you to see the other man, I don't this....""""
