K, you sound so much better in this last post! You are right...you must do things for "you" and your children. He makes his own choices and he must be an adult and live with the consequences....good or bad. It is fine to go to an event with him if you enjoy it. That gives you an opportunity to show off your good looks, charm, & great personality. The more "interesting" a woman you become.....the more he will notice you and become attracted. I think you handled everything well. The only thing I would caution you about is his BS he's giving you about the guy he'll be staying with in CA. Not sure why he is even bothering after he made it plain about OW--other than he doesn't want to be distrubed with any interuptions. He will use this other guy for a contact...in case of an emergency. He is establishing an alibi. Your heart wants to believe that he's being honest, but don't set yourself up for more hurt & disappointment. See the truth for what it is and deal with it. Your response to his "reminding" you of his weekend in CA was perfect. You did not fall into any R talk nor did you act needy & desparate. Good job.
Speaking of jobs, do you have any special skills/training or are you looking for specific areas? You may feel a little rusty at first, but you'll fall into the swing of things quickly. Remember to have confidence and if you don't get this job....go after another one.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
