Breakaway, You husband is taking note of your growth, modeling healthy behavior and communication, and love. I think you are doing a great job. Stay steady.
Cheers
thx Coach. The last line of that email really made me think he is trying to do this: unite his family at all costs. Unite. For so long it has been "control your family at all costs." I don't know if you remember me saying he has even said that, yelled it, If I don't CONTROL this family everything will fall apart. Which was making it fall apart!!
He's finally seeing that, and realizing, IMO, that he hasn't been controlling HIMSELF (alcohol, pornography, anger), instead he's tried to control everyone else. I wish I could write down everything that's been discussed since that Labor Day porn debacle. Amazing conversations.
I do believe him that he wants us to be "united" now, not under his thumb. When he finally saw his behavior for what it was. I used to get sick when he said, well, we're "one flesh" because in my opinion, I knew which ONE we were...him. I so hope he has come back around to seeing us as two united as one, instead of me being subsumed by him.
Okay, well, I covet everyone's prayers today. I appreciate it, and I do pray for so many of you.
p.s. I am going to buy that book Learned Optimism today. I think he might be open to it now, and I think it could help S12 too. The big birthday fight he started crying in frustration and said, Dad, people DON'T CHANGE. And my H almost started crying and said he WAS changing, and had already changed a lot, and that all of us could change and love each other again.
