I'm new wondering if this works...

[Dia]

"Script" usually refers to the long list of things said (or done) by the typical WAS. They call it that because it seems like the WASes are all 'reading from the same script.'

Re: getting your man back vs. getting your wife back. I've struggled with the gender thing, too. Is any of this different when the LBS is female vs. male? I never got any answers!

I haven't ready your whole sitch, but the detaching and doing stuff for you, fulfilling your own emotional needs and not relying on your H or marriage to do so - that's huge. Keep it up.

In my sitch, what worked was to be light, upbeat and casual absolutely as much as possible. And also to make sure I was looking and smelling my best all the time. Act happy even if you're not.

I'll see if I can catch up on your sitch and give more details later!