Wow, it's great to hear from you again - although I wish it was not due to problems.
OT is right, men pretty much all look at porn from time to time. And yeah, some of it can be pretty raunchy - if it helps, try to view this in terms of 'dirty fantasizing' rather than something that H would actually go around doing in person.
OK, so let's take it as a given that porn is a part of life for men (it doesn't have to be a BIG part, remember). With that in mind, here's the important question: How are you and H doing otherwise?
If you hadn't been upset by this, would you have said that your M was doing better these days? Is there intimacy and caring between you and H? In that case, the porn is something H does IN ADDITION TO a healthy physical relationship with you.
OR, are things not going well in the sex life of your M - in which case, the porn is something H does IN STEAD of a healthy physical relationship with you.
Even in the second case, that does NOT necessarily mean that H prefers porn to you - please don't jump to that conclusion. But if the rest of the R is not going well, sometimes we take what we can get, if you follow my meaning.
So tell us more about how you are, and how your relationship is these days - it has been a long time since we heard from you. I really hope you are doing well overall, and this is just a small bump in the road.
(((HUGS!!!)))
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
