snodderly: Yes, my H is definitely a strange one. But I can't look at the TV as anything significant. My H has very little concept of money. The TV is a necessity and kind of a gadget to him. His buying things for me really isn't a sign of any affection. I think friend may have also had something to do with it, since I mentioned to friend the other day that TV was breaking down. So - I'm writing the incident off. Back to waiting for H to pick a date to meet.
Hi Dave: Thanks for reading up on my sitch and posting to me. Sounds like your wife has had you on the rollercoaster for quite some time. Unlike your wife though, my H has never turned back in 3+ years. Says he wants D, but hasn't done anything about it. I was thankful for a while, but I think it's time to take care of business.
I have to admit that part of my wanting to get this over with now is because H isn't seeing anyone and neither am I. Our chances of working the terms out amicably are much better, I think. I have to assume that H is not coming back and I need to protect myself and my kids. I'm also being real and seeing that H is not the same man I married.
I'm actually ready to give up. I'm ready to really move on. I know what you mean about not knowing where you'll stand after the D, if it ever goes through. Seems like the D is a real eye-opener for some, even for those on our side of the fence.
Good luck in your sitch. Hang in there, and be prepared that this is a loooong journey.
