All is still calm. H requested I call him through out the time he was traveling to the casino. I said why don't you just call me? He brought up a good point "I don't want to disturb you if you're doing something....you know I'm just driving." True.
So I called him a few times. Every time he was very excited to hear from me. So we blah blah blahed. He sent me a few texts throughout the night and one this morning to let me know he was awake and at it again.
Told him last night to text or call me when he was on the road home.
He did mention his lawyer received my response and that he and his lawyer would talk about it on Monday.
Hang in there stronger. Don't give up. You seem so close to getting back together?
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Yes it is at times. Hang in there. It's tough to keep this confusing mess out of your head. Go with the flow, live in the moment and see what Monday brings.
No matter what, at this point try your best not to react to, or anticipate what may or may not happen and whatever you do, don't get into any discussions or debates about "my lawyer says this or that" with him. Going back and forth with one another in those regards is almost never positive.
Keep your focus on that cute kid and you have yourself a wonderful weekend.
Fortunately, I'm too tired to do anything else! And it's so odd, no one looking at us when we are together would think there is a filing between us. It actually makes me laugh out loud when the thought occurs to me.
Stronger sometimes they have to do what they have planned in their head before they can see the folly of their ways.
Based upon what you write about him...he is NOT as horrible as most and has made some pretty amazing overtures. MLC being what it is, I am impressed with him and really think despite the filing and lawyers you have a really good shot, as long as you don't tear down the framework that is being built by your impatience or wounded pride.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
You are right. I do give him credit, I just don't always convey that here. He has made some serious efforts.
There's been a lot of great communication in that it's been very normal today. He's having a good time and still hasn't left to come home yet. I told him to take his time since it's rainy here and I still have somethings I can do around the house, there's really no hurry.
One more thing to mention....perhaps it's odd and maybe no one gets this, which just confirms it's odd....I actually see this as the truest sign that he's returning.
I've noticed H no longer protects his phone. He leaves it next to the bed and goes outside with S. He leaves it plugged in and takes a shower. He still takes it with him to the bathroom, but I hear him playing video games on it, mostly sudoku. He's not texting as much as he once did. He used to be so incredibly rude about it. So much so, if that had kept up, I would have to divorce him and he would have to marry that stupid phone.
But yeah....I might be crazy. Let me know if you "get" this...or if I'm alone on this one.
