Thanks Bill...perhaps you, and others, can help me with an email I recently received.

I post this anonymously, to show how confusing this path can be. After my post above, I received the following email from an old friend of mine, a 'stander', who was fortunate enough to have his wife come back to him after about a 6 month 'MLC'. He usually emails me singularly every 2-3 months and, I believe, without following the entire thread:

Quote:

Frank,

I hope you are well!

I have to point out that you have to detach at some point. I also wish you didn't ascribe every action by your wife as having something to do with you. How could you know that she "usually runs the kids to the movies on opening nites so that SHE gets them there before me"? What if she just wants to spend time with the kids because she loves them?

Frank, your anger and pain is still SO apparent. I believe your marriage STILL could be restored if you could move beyond it and thought better of her.

I'm still praying from the sidelines!


Notice...there was NO comment about her withholding them from an important holiday celebration tonite. Nor, does he know that EVERY FIRST NITE SHOWING of a hot new cartoon or movie on a Friday, the kids are rushed to and frequently, the movies I'd like to take them to are seen already. Trust me..it is NOT coincidence or paranoia on my part. I accept it as her insecurity with my love for my kids and their love for me.

PS...nothing happened with the attys tonite. I am losing my kids for the holiday and there is nothing I can do to celebrate with them...the equivalent of me keeping them from Easter with her.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;