In Limbo

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Interesting comment regarding advice on WAW vs. MLC forum. I would agree that if she was the WAW which I initially thought she was and was going to be is incorrect. If it was, she would have more than likely filing for divorce by now.

So in regards to an MLC, yea--pride does get in the way. It is hard to handle that aspect. However, I do feel if you lay down all the time and check out on the pride piece, you can look unnatractive to your spouse as well. I think there also has to be some respect there. I have lightened up for the most part on the pressue piece. It is hard not to discuss things every couple weeks. I do sometimes need her to know where I stand and that I am not going to be her lackey.

Have I been patient? I believe I have. Pride, I have put it on the shelf and continue to do so, however, I have to have some boundaries of what I will and will not tolerate.

In regards to the love piece? I will admit there are sometimes I don't feel it anymore. I think that is coming with the detachment piece. Trying to envision myself being OK, if this does end in divorce. I do still love her, otherwise, I am not sure I would be here after 5 months. You just become numb to things after sometime and the emotional upheavals subside. I am able to carry on daily without that pit in your stomach. I would imagine that constant rejection over a 5 month period will harden you a bit....

It does amaze me though she continues to have that act of everythings great, even when the kids aren't around. Acting like we are best of friends telling me about her day, etc...Then an hour later be telling me she would only stay in the marriage for the kids???

Anyway: I am getting much better at handling everything which ever way it goes.