WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

You need to be documenting all of this. When it goes in front of a judge you will need to show all the paid receipts.

Get a custody (if you havent already) and financial agreement in place. Decide whose paying what now. If you dont you will be sorry. Divide up all the bills now. Dont just pay everything. Get everything in writing. She will take you to the cleaners if you ENABLE it.

She is not stable right now. Protect yourself.

You will need a strong foundation for you and the boys in the future.

PMA

PMA_Baby,

What's "interesting" about PA, from what my lawyer told me, is that financial support agreements are formula based. Of course the formula is biased towards the wife, but it is formula based.

Right now our verbal agreement is less than what the formula would allow. I had tried to get her to sign the agreement, but each time, she said she wanted to see what the formula came up with.

So she can agree with a number that's lower, but she can not ask for more unless I agree. A little weird, but very clear.

We don't have a formal custody agreement either, but we have a hearing setup in Dec. My lawyer told me that if we can't come to agreement during that point, the court would just review what we had been doing and then make that the agreement to maintain "consisency" for the boys. Which is another reason why I haven't been willing to give up any of my days.

So I have my ducks lined up for what I need.