WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

Don't bail her out CIPA. If it's for the kids, then you buy it directly for them.

If it's for her, she needs to think about it and cut some corners. But keep in mind, do not let her off the hook for kid stuff, she has to be responsible also. She has to cut the corners off her shopping or socializing.

This was her choice. She has to live with it.

What Coach said is pretty good. And really, the only thing that's not going to annoy her or piss her off is "Ok, here's the money" and then you're just a chump.

It's a bill for the summer camp our 7 year old went to. We had originally agreed that we would split the bills based where I would pay for my 3 year old's tuition and she would pay for our 7 year old's tuition (the 3 year old's is almost 4x the tuition cost). Problem was during the summer, the 7 year old's tripled due to camp and it's activities. I paid the deposit for the camp and we agreed we would split the difference between what was the normal tuition and the summer tuition.

What annoyed me first is she "forgot" I paid the deposit so she said I owed all of it. When I reminded her, she got "flustered" and started dancing around. I just told her that she can figure it out and let me know or just give me the bill to figure out. She called back later and "admitted" she made a mistake and it turned out I over paid and she owes all of it, plus what I overpaid. That's when she asked to borrow money.

I just told her to put the bill in the laptop and I'll look it over.

Part of me feels I should have just said no, but she caught me by surprise, especially since I was in such a good mood knowing I was going to see the boys tomorrow. I didn't expect her to ask to borrow money again, considering the blow up we had the week before I found out the truth.

She had asked on a Thurs to borrow money to pay off her furniture 0% interest loan that was coming due. That's when I told her that I was feeling used and played. She of course blew up at me saying I haven't changed and blah blah blah. I got mad back then, but on Sat, we talked and I bought her story of how she was still trying to figure things out and blah blah blah. Fortunately I found out the truth that Sunday before I would have given her the check.

This time, I'm not buying it.

You are right - she caused all this. She will have to deal with it.

I just need to get there without it going back to WWIII.

I have a feeling I need to get my nukes ready again.....